(500) Day of Summer
As I randomly stumbled upon some (500) Day of Summer stuff on here, I remembered how many people called Summer a bitch for “leading Tom on” or for dumping him. This is strange to me. First of all, the entire story was given only from Tom’s perspective, Summer’s character never really got developed and therefore we were missing half the story. Secondly, some of the things we knew was that the entire time Summer made it crystal clear what kind of non-relationship she was looking for. She didn’t believe in love, she “didn’t feel comfortable being anyone’s anything” (girlfriend), and she was not interested in a serious relationship. However Tom stayed around knowing that and then got angry when she acted out on the things she clarified in the first place. Does it suck when you love someone more than you love them? Hell yeah. But to avoid masochism, perhaps he shouldn’t have assumed that just because they were spending so much time together- he had magically cured her of the things she didn’t want. It is also a side effect of the Nice Guy TM syndrome; I put this much time/effort/niceness in this relationship so I DESERVE you. And if you don’t reciprocate then you’re a bitch! To conclude, I saw it more as a coming of age story in which Tom got to grow out of the manchild he was.